A dean’s response to bullying | Aaron Shasha | TEDxYouth@HillelYeshiva

Bullying and Its Impact

• Bullying involves unwarranted aggressive behavior with intent to harm, a power imbalance, and repetition.
• Words can have a negative impact on others even if they don't meet the clinical definition of bullying.
• Bullies feel insecure and seek validation by putting others down.
• Bullies' behavior is unsustainable and they will eventually face consequences.

The Roles in Bullying Scenarios

• There are three characters in bullying scenarios: the bully, the victim, and the bystander.
• Bullies feel superior by surrounding themselves with those they perceive as inferior.
• Victims should recognize their own greatness and challenge the power imbalance by not submitting to bullies.
• Bystanders make up the majority in bullying situations.

Why Bystanders Don't Intervene

• Bystanders may misinterpret jokes as harmless, fear becoming the next target, or lack integrity and respect for others.
• Bystanders should empathize with victims, uphold integrity, and call out bullying.

The Importance of Speaking Up

• A real friend tells you what you need to hear, not what you want to hear.
• Real friends don't let you act in a way that is not your best self.
• We all have a responsibility to protect and save human life.
• Our reputation is the one thing that will remain with us throughout eternity.