Asking My Mentors for Life Advice on My 30th Birthday
28 Jun 2024 (3 months ago)
Introduction
- The YouTuber turned 30 and asked successful friends and mentors for life advice.
- The advice is relevant for people over 30 and those planning their future.
- The mentors are successful in business or writing and have a balanced approach to personal life.
- Don't compare yourself to others. Everyone has their own journey and timeline.
- Focus on your own growth and development. Continuously learn and improve yourself.
- Don't be afraid to take risks. Step outside your comfort zone and try new things.
- Surround yourself with positive people. They will support and encourage you.
- Take care of your health. Physical and mental health are essential for overall well-being.
- Don't be afraid to ask for help. There are people who care about you and want to support you.
- Live in the present moment. Don't dwell on the past or worry about the future.
- Be grateful for what you have. Appreciate the good things in your life.
- Follow your passion. Do what you love and what makes you happy.
- Leave a positive impact on the world. Make a difference in the lives of others.
Mathew Hussey
- Matthew Hussey is a relationship and dating coach, as well as a personal development expert.
- His advice for Ali Abdaal on his 30th birthday is to not hide parts of yourself for fear of being unattractive, unlikable, or unlovable.
- Action point: Journal about what parts of yourself you keep hidden and what about you scares you will make you less attractive, likable, or lovable.
- Ali Abdaal discusses his own struggles with prioritizing his own preferences over the desire to be liked.
- He mentions a conversation with executive coach Joe Hudson about the word "selfish" and how it can be empowering to embrace selfishness in a balanced way.
- Ali recommends the book "No More Mr Nice Guy" by Robert Glover for helping men think about what they want rather than caretaking for others.
- He encourages viewers to journal about this topic and announces a free quarterly alignment webinar on June 30, 2024, from 3:00 to 5:00 p.m. UK time.
Marie Forleo
- Marie Forleo is an entrepreneur, author, and founder of an online program called Business School.
- She advises:
- Do dream vacations with older family members while everyone is healthy.
- Maintain a low-cost lifestyle and prioritize savings.
- Wear sunscreen regularly for skincare.
- Mark Manson is a blogger, author, and podcaster known for his book "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck".
- He advises:
- Stop seeking external validation and focus on internal values.
- Embrace discomfort and challenges as opportunities for growth.
- Prioritize meaningful relationships and experiences over material possessions.
Mark Manson
- Mark Manson, author of "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck," shares life advice for Olli's 30th birthday.
- As you get older, you realize you have less time and your decisions carry more weight.
- Appreciate the limited time you have and make conscious choices about how you spend it.
- Olli reflects on Mark's advice and his tendency to prioritize work over personal life.
- He recognizes the importance of balancing work and personal commitments, especially family time and health.
- Olli suggests journaling about what he would do differently if he knew he had only two years to live.
- He used to think video games were a waste of time but now realizes he would play more if he knew he had limited time.
- Olli has also started reading more fiction since realizing the value of leisure activities.
- He encourages viewers to do the journaling prompt and share their insights.
Alok Kanojia
- Alok Kanojia, also known as Dr. K, is a psychiatrist and former Harvard Medical School faculty member who runs the YouTube channel Healthy Gamer GG.
- Ali met Alok a year ago in Austin and they have since become online friends and had coaching sessions.
- Alok believes that making bad decisions can be some of the best decisions one can make.
- He encourages Ali to stop living up to others' expectations and start pursuing what he truly wants in life.
- Alok suggests journaling to explore what Ali would like to do without caring about others' opinions and what bad decisions he could make that he might be grateful for in the future.
- Ali considers living in a van for a week as something he has always wanted to do and mentions other potential bad decisions he might make.
- Ali promotes his weekly newsletter, Sunday Snippets, where he shares his thoughts, learnings, book recommendations, and insights.
Nir Eyal
- Nir Eyal is a bestselling author and invited Oli to a writer's retreat in New York.
- He has been helpful in giving Oli advice on marketing, writing, and publishing his book.
- Nir is in his 40s, physically fit, and has a strong family life.
- Nir advises Oli to have children as soon as possible if he finds the right partner.
- He believes children bring a lot of joy to life.
- Oli considers this advice interesting as it contradicts his previous thoughts on having children.
- Oli plans to undergo fertility testing as an action point before marriage.
- Oli invites parents watching the video to share their perspectives on the number of children they have and whether they have any regrets.
Sahil Bloom
- As you transition from your 20s to your 30s, shift your focus from game access to game selection, being more deliberate about the opportunities you pursue due to limited energy and attention.
- The most rewarding aspects of life, including relationships, health, mindset, career, and team building, require consistent effort and discipline to achieve.
- The speaker reflects on their life experiences and seeks advice from mentors as they turn 30.
- It's important to be mindful of commitments and choose which endeavors to invest time and effort in, focusing on those with greater potential for impact, financial gain, and personal fulfillment.
- The speaker encourages viewers to join them in journaling about these topics and invites them to share their responses via comments or email.
Dan Go
- Dan Go is Ali's fitness coach.
- Dan emphasizes the importance of physical fitness for overall well-being, including improved energy, confidence, and focus.
- Ali mentions a journaling prompt he shared with his productivity community, encouraging them to consider tripling their time, effort, and money spent on health.
- Many people took action as a result, such as hiring personal trainers, joining gyms, and adopting healthier diets.
- Ali acknowledges that he already invests in personal training, gyms, and healthy meal delivery, but he recognizes there's room for improvement.
- He suggests some specific actions he could take, such as walking more, increasing personal training sessions, and exploring longevity blood tests.
- Ali's friend suggests that he should focus on enjoying life and not take things too seriously.
- He advises Ali to embrace spontaneity and not be afraid to make mistakes.
- Ali's friend encourages him to prioritize experiences over material possessions and to live in the moment.
- He emphasizes the importance of surrounding oneself with positive people who support and uplift.
Chris Ducker
- Chris Ducker, an entrepreneur and author in his 50s, shares advice on embracing the action of learning to switch off and recharge.
- Being an entrepreneur can be stressful and lonely, but great leaders take care of themselves to continue leading.
- Action point: Schedule time to recharge and take vacations to avoid burnout.
- Noah Kagan, an entrepreneur and podcaster in his 40s, emphasizes the importance of taking care of one's health and well-being.
- Health is the foundation for everything else in life, including success and happiness.
- Action point: Make health a priority by eating well, exercising, and getting enough sleep.
Noah Kagan
- Life improves with age, and each decade brings unique joys.
- Instead of overhyping decade birthdays, spend quality time with close friends and family.
- Write down goals and aspirations for your 40th birthday to provide direction and motivation.
- Continue what's working in your life, including health, business, YouTube, friendships, relationships, and location.
- Start a skincare routine now to protect your skin and maintain a youthful appearance.
- Appreciate the people, places, and experiences along the way.
- The speaker ran out of deliveries of their retinoid and hasn't been using it for a few months, so they're adding it as an action point.
- The speaker expresses appreciation for the advice received from Noah.
Eric Partaker
- Eric Partaker is the CEO coach of the speaker.
- They met online when Eric interviewed the speaker on his podcast.
- Eric has helped the speaker, his business, and his general manager.
- Eric has been featured on the speaker's podcast.
- Eric advises the speaker that he didn't need to have everything figured out when he turned 30.
- He was obsessed with knowing every step of his future.
- Since then, he has had a variety of jobs and experiences.
- He quotes John Lennon: "Life is what happens while you're busy making other plans."
- He advises the speaker to focus on the 20% of things that create 80% of the results.
- He suggests journaling about the 20% in work, health, and relationships that drive 80% of positive outcomes.
Daniel Priestley
- Turning 30 marks the beginning of a new chapter in life, distinct from the experiences and explorations of the 20s.
- People come and go in your life, with some relationships ending and new ones forming.
- The relationship with your family, especially your parents, undergoes a significant change.
- The foundation you build at 30 determines the quality of life you have at 40.
- Building a good reputation and brand at 30 pays off significantly in the long term.
- Fitness becomes crucial after 30, as it shifts from effortless maintenance to a "use it or lose it" situation.
- Taking care of your health, eating well, and exercising regularly are essential to preserving your well-being.