Sand Hands | This Past Weekend w/ Theo Von

Reflections on the Past Year

• This year has felt extremely fast, like it was hooked to a laser beam, making it difficult to remember what happened during the summer (30s).
• Life has been moving at a rapid pace, making it hard to keep up, and it's like trying to grab sand - you can get some of it, but it ultimately slips away (1m36s).
• The experience of life is similar to trying to be a chiropractor on sand, where you think you can control it, but you actually can't (2m23s).
• The past year has been long, and it's been challenging to keep up with the pace of life (2m40s).

Pest Control Encounter

• The person had a recent encounter with a pest control guy who offered to visit 17 times a year, which was not a desirable sales pitch (4m15s).
• The pest control guy had a notable mustache, and the person couldn't help but think that he might be running a "bug Motel" under his nose due to its size (4m39s).

Life's Rapid Pace and Recent Events

• Life is moving fast, and it's easy to get confused with everything happening quickly, such as kids growing up, family members needing medical attention, and personal milestones passing by rapidly (5m4s).
• The past seven months have been eventful, including the passing of a grandmother, and it's essential to take a moment to reflect on life and its experiences (6m23s).

Recent Shows and Travels

• It's been a while since the last solo episode, but there are plans to do more, and having some time to take care of oneself is feeling good (6m59s).
• Recent shows have taken place in various locations, including OSU's campus, Grand Rapids, Michigan, Montana, Colorado Springs, and Casper, Wyoming, with appreciation to those who attended (7m19s).
• An apology might be owed to the people of Colorado Springs due to dehydration and its effects during the visit (7m42s).
• The weather in Casper, Wyoming, was extremely dry, causing dehydration and discomfort, even affecting the local animals and plants (8m12s).
• The dry environment led to unusual situations, such as having to use spit to moisturize eyes and witnessing a plant grow up a leg to reach a canteen (8m56s).
• A recent trip to Montana and surrounding areas, including Colorado Springs and Casper, was described as a beautiful experience, with the region's natural scenery being particularly noteworthy (11m27s).
• The dry climate in the area caused dehydration, with oxygen tanks being provided, but they only seemed to make things worse, and even the local animals appeared to be affected (10m21s).
• The trip included a visit to Lacrosse, Wisconsin, which was described as one of the greatest little city towns, with a charming and laid-back atmosphere (12m3s).

Meaning of a Perfect Place and Fan Interactions

• The idea of a perfect place was discussed, with the example of a parent not wiping a child's runny nose being seen as a beautiful and relatable moment, especially for those who grew up in poverty (12m20s).
• The trip allowed for meet and greets with fans, and the support was greatly appreciated (13m34s).

Upcoming Winter and SNL Experience

• The upcoming winter season was discussed, with the weather forecast predicting colder temperatures, and the phrase "BLM" was jokingly redefined as "Burrr Lives Matter" (14m5s).
• A recent experience of being part of the Saturday Night Live (SNL) audience, where Bill Burr was performing, was described as special, with Bill Burr being praised for being unique and true to himself (14m24s).
• The experience of attending SNL for the first time was shared, with the company of friends, including Kevin and John Farley, Chris Farley's brother (14m50s).
• Being at Saturday Night Live (SNL) was a special experience, especially with the presence of John Farley, Chris Farley's brother, who was visiting the place for the first time since his brother's time there (15m2s).
• John Farley shared many stories about his brother Chris and their experiences backstage at SNL, which were considered better than some of the sketches being performed (16m32s).
• It was felt that SNL should have brought John Farley on stage to share some of his stories, as it would have been a unique opportunity to hear about Chris Farley's time at the show (17m26s).
• The experience of listening to John Farley's stories was like walking through time and experiencing the bond between brothers (17m15s).

CMAs and Music Discussion

• In addition to the SNL experience, a trip to the swing set with a friend's son was also mentioned (17m52s).
• The Country Music Awards (CMAs) were also watched, featuring performances by Caleb Presley, Laney Wilson, and Jelly Roll, among others (18m0s).
• The CMAs showcased a diverse group of artists, including those with a "musically recovering honky vibe" (19m1s).
• The event also featured a performance by Yellow Wolf, a St. Bernard with a couple of face tattoos (18m38s).
• Bobby Lee was also present at the CMAs, now pursuing a career in music (18m53s).
• The discussion revolves around the recent CMA awards, where a group called Old Dominion won the award for vocal group, while the desired winner was Red Clay Strays (19m14s).
• Old Dominion is a group with a brother's name, and their music style is compared to Elvis's, with the suggestion that they might be hiding a brother amongst the group members (19m35s).
• Red Clay Strays are a country group that sings prayers and has a unique vibe, making them a part of a movement, and their music doesn't need a specific space to fit in (20m41s).
• The group's genre is debated, with some arguing that they are a country group, while others consider them gospel, but their music is described as vibrant prayer (21m1s).
• The CMA awards were expected to bring in new blood, but that didn't happen, and the outcome was disappointing (21m36s).

Visit to Grand and Holiday Season

• A personal experience of visiting Grand is shared, describing it as a beautiful place where people are thriving and taking care of their community (21m55s).
• The holiday season is approaching, and it's a time for family, food, and potentially some chaos, but hopefully, no serious mishaps occur (22m13s).

Thanksgiving and Gratitude

• Morgan and Morgan, America's largest injury law firm, is introduced as a reliable option for those who might need their services in case of an injury, with over 100 offices nationwide and a proven track record of fighting for fair compensation (22m40s).
• The importance of Thanksgiving is acknowledged, and it's described as a wild time, with the week being a time for reflection (23m46s).
• The calendar has a built-in "stop time" to give thanks, which is a fascinating concept that serves as a reminder to be grateful for the things that have happened in life (24m14s).
• Being able to whisper is something to be thankful for, as it allows people to express their feelings without everyone knowing (25m2s).
• Family is something to be grateful for, including a sister who makes you laugh and a nephew who talks to you, even if it's not as often as you'd like (25m24s).
• It's also important to appreciate the little things, like urine not being hotter than it is when it comes out of the body, which would be a significant issue if it were even 10 degrees hotter (26m0s).
• Being grateful for the manageable temperature of urine is a big one, and it's something that people often take for granted (27m8s).
• The ability to try and not have everything be final is also something to be thankful for, as it allows people to learn and grow from their mistakes (27m28s).
• Having arms that are good enough to hug, even if they're not the best length, is something to appreciate (27m35s).
• Wearing shoes is also something to be thankful for, and it's often something that people take for granted (27m55s).

Making Friends and Racial Identity

• The hotline number is 985-664-9503, and people are encouraged to call in and share their thoughts and gratitude (28m12s).
• Making friends as an adult can be challenging, and one person has found that they often end up befriending people of the same racial background, in this case, black friends, due to shared activities like playing basketball (28m40s).
• To make friends from different racial backgrounds, it's suggested to engage in various activities that attract people from those backgrounds, such as putting up a basketball rim to attract black friends or playing hide and go seek to attract Asian friends (30m12s).
• The idea of having friends from different racial backgrounds is encouraged, and it's noted that it's okay to be a white person with black friends, just as it's okay for people of other racial backgrounds to have friends from different ethnicities (31m4s).
• The concept of "wiggers" (white people who identify with black culture) is mentioned, as well as the idea that some black people may identify with white culture, highlighting the complexity of racial identity and cultural exchange (31m15s).
• Ultimately, the message is that it's never too late to form new friendships with people from different racial and ethnic backgrounds, and that the increasing diversity of the population will eventually lead to a more homogeneous, "beige" society (31m53s).
• The idea is that in a few generations, the concept of different racial and ethnic identities will become less distinct, and people will be more genetically mixed, leading to a more uniform, "off-brown" or "taupe" appearance (32m3s).
• The importance of appreciating and celebrating different ethnicities and cultures is emphasized, as the opportunity to experience and learn from them will become less distinct in the future (32m54s).

Thanksgiving Plans and Dustin Poirier

• Maria Gillan invited Theo to her family's Thanksgiving dinner in Gallatin, Tennessee, promising good food, including mashed potatoes and pasta, and a welcoming atmosphere (33m16s).
• Theo appreciated the invitation but declined, citing prior commitments, and left a voicemail message to express his gratitude (34m8s).
• Theo mentioned that he would be spending Thanksgiving in Lafayette, Louisiana, with Dustin Poirier, who allegedly cooks meals by putting utensils in his fighting gloves and beating the food (34m59s).
• Dustin Poirier's unorthodox cooking method results in dishes with injuries, such as black-eyed peas with two black eyes and turkey legs in casts (35m15s).
• Theo also mentioned that he would be performing a large show at the Cajundome in Lafayette, Louisiana, and expressed gratitude for the support he has received over the years (36m15s).

Family, Gratitude, and Food Preferences

• Theo's mother recently moved back to Baton Rouge, and he is grateful to have her at home (36m25s).
• Theo took another call from Trevon, who expressed gratitude for waking up every day, having a job, and his beautiful wife, Gabby, as well as his family's health (36m49s).
• Theo reflected on the importance of appreciating and taking care of one's health (37m10s).
• Michael from Tennessee called in to discuss his preference for ham over turkey, stating that turkey is dry and bland, and he didn't enjoy it at Thanksgiving since ham is typically served at Christmas (37m35s).
• Ham is considered a more traditional and comforting food, while turkey is seen as riskier and more versatile, with various ways of preparing and consuming it (38m12s).

News Story and Ticketmaster Monopoly

• A news story was shared about police finding a 2-kilogram garden gnome made entirely of MDMA, highlighting the unexpected and surprising nature of current events (39m40s).
• Harley from Portland, Oregon, called in to discuss his positive experience visiting the city, despite its reputation for having antifa and BLM activists, and adult babies, and instead found it to be a great city with a unique atmosphere (40m26s).
• Harley appreciated the way tickets are sold for shows, encouraging people not to use secondary sites that resell tickets at higher prices, and instead promoting fair pricing for attendees (41m40s).
• Secondary ticketing sites often pay to have their results appear higher in search engine rankings, leading people to pay more for tickets than necessary, which is why it's recommended to avoid these sites (42m11s).
• Ticketmaster is a monopoly that has been running a scam, and it's a subsidiary of Live Nation Entertainment, which is headquartered in Beverly Hills, with Liberty Media Corporation being the largest shareholder, owning 30% of the company, and other major shareholders including Vanguard and Black Rock advisors (43m40s).
• The fees charged by Ticketmaster are astronomical, and artists don't receive any money from these fees, which instead go to the big companies that own Ticketmaster (43m18s).
• The same people who own Ticketmaster also own the buildings where shows are held, the websites, and other related businesses, and they don't care about the impact of their fees on customers (44m31s).
• The government allows this monopolistic business behavior, and it's hurting people who want to buy tickets to shows (45m25s).
• Some artists, like Zack Bryan, have tried alternative ticketing methods, but a better way to do it that saves people money has not yet been found (45m8s).
• The high fees and costs associated with buying tickets from Ticketmaster are a significant burden for many people, and it would be better if they had that extra money to spend on other things (45m39s).

Ticket Sales and Venue Ownership

• Ticket sales are often controlled by large corporations like Ticket Master, which can lead to high prices and low profit margins for venues and artists, with the possibility of finding alternative methods in the future (46m38s).
• Some venues charge for parking, which can be seen as an excessive business practice, but it may be necessary for their operations (46m59s).
• Owning venues or finding politicians who support fair ticket pricing could be potential solutions to the issue of high ticket prices (47m20s).

Operational Costs and Gratitude for Friends

• The need for extra revenue from ticket sales may be necessary for some companies to cover their operational costs, such as sending emails (47m44s).
• Having friends who check in and show support is something to be thankful for, and it's essential to reciprocate that support (48m3s).

Family, Community, and Personal Growth

• The arrival of a new baby, in this case, a third son, is a blessing and a reason to be thankful, especially when the family is involved in uplifting the community (48m25s).
• Being part of a community that uplifts and supports each other, such as the speed and strength training group in Nashville, is something to be thankful for (48m39s).
• Attending friends' weddings and being able to see friends is a reason to be thankful for the opportunities to connect with others (49m9s).
• Having the ability to think about others and try to be a better person, even in difficult times, is a blessing and something to be thankful for (49m19s).
• Being able to change one's vibe or energy by seeing someone, hearing a song, or choosing to focus on positive things is a reason to be thankful (49m45s).
• Being grateful for the mistakes that haven't had severe consequences and for the grace that has helped navigate difficult situations is essential (49m59s).
• Having friends and being able to think about and appreciate them is a reason to be thankful, and being grateful in itself is a valuable trait (50m24s).

Cultural Differences and Saying "Bless You"

• A person shares their experience of hanging out with some brothers and noticing that they don't say "bless you" when someone sneezes, which they find unusual (51m15s).
• It's suggested that this might be a cultural thing, and that brothers have been through a lot historically, so they might not worry about someone sneezing due to pollen or something similar (52m21s).
• It's also mentioned that white people tend to say "bless you" more often when someone sneezes, whereas black people might not, and that this could be due to different cultural priorities and historical experiences (53m2s).

Pornography Addiction and Recovery

• The conversation shifts to a discussion about pornography, with a mention of a program called Recovery that helps men overcome porn abuse and sexual compulsivity (54m16s).
• The program's founder, Steve, is introduced as a long-term sexual recovery member who has personally overcome the emotional and spiritual despair of abusing pornography (54m53s).
• The issue of pornography is framed as a common problem that many men struggle with, often using it to numb feelings of loneliness, boredom, anxiety, and depression, but being prevented from talking about it due to shame and stigma (54m30s).
• Valor Recovery is an organization that helps men develop the tools necessary to have a healthier sex life, and their coaches are in long-term recovery and will be a partner, mentor, and spiritual guide to transcend problematic behaviors (55m10s).
• The organization can be reached at www.valorrecoverycoaching.com or by emailing admin@valorrecoverycoaching.com (55m38s).

Helping Others and Addiction Struggles

• The importance of doing more for others and giving back is emphasized, especially during this time of year (55m55s).
• It is a relief to think about somebody else when one is trapped in their own thoughts (56m40s).
• A caller, 20 years old, shares their struggle with drinking every day since they were 17 and asks for advice (57m2s).
• The caller always falls back into the same pattern of drinking despite trying to stop, and they hate themselves for it (57m18s).
• The advice given is that addiction is a disease, and it's not the person's choice to continue the behavior (57m47s).
• Shame can build up when one is addicted and unable to stop, leading to a loss of integrity (58m23s).
• Going to recovery, such as Alcoholics Anonymous, and attending meetings can be helpful in overcoming addiction (59m0s).
• The first question asked in a meeting is whether one's life is unmanageable, which can be a starting point for seeking help (59m10s).
• Life can be considered unmanageable if it's affected by addiction, and acknowledging this is a personal decision, not a diagnosis made by others (59m26s).
• It's recommended to attend AA meetings, listen for similarities in experiences, and not focus on differences, as this can help individuals decide if they need treatment or sponsorship (59m49s).
• If someone is drinking every day for an extended period, they may need treatment to detoxify themselves (1h0m20s).

Down Syndrome and Support

• Joclyn called in to ask for advice for her 10-year-old son with Down Syndrome, and the response was to encourage the child to "hang in there" and that he is a "hero" and "beloved" (1h0m45s).
• People with Down Syndrome are considered "heroes" and make a positive impact on those around them, and every year, progress is being made in understanding and addressing the condition (1h1m22s).

Trevon's Story: Addiction, Job Loss, and Relationships

• A caller struggling with addiction and finding a job shared their difficulties in putting down alcohol and how listening to the podcast helped them, but they still struggle to overcome their addiction (1h3m32s).
• A person called in to a voicemail and left a message about having a tough time, which was heard by the recipient, who was touched by the message and decided to call the person back to talk about it (1h4m23s).
• The recipient called the person, who was surprised that their message was actually listened to, and they started talking about their struggles, including a recent car accident and being cheated on (1h5m33s).
• The person who called in, Trevon, had been having a rough week, including a car accident that totaled their car, but they only suffered a small concussion, and they also got cheated on (1h6m22s).
• Trevon mentioned that they had been struggling with drinking and had recently started a new job that required working seven days a week, which led to them starting to fall apart and drink on the job (1h7m28s).
• Trevon was eventually fired from the job in October, which is when things started to get really rough, and they went through a couple of relationships that didn't work out (1h7m39s).
• Trevon is 24 years old, lives with their parents, and doesn't have any children, which is seen as a blessing in disguise because they don't have any responsibilities outside of themselves (1h8m10s).
• Trevon had been drinking to cope with their struggles, but they mentioned that they had recently gone 19 hours without drinking, which is a big accomplishment for them (1h7m4s).
• The individual has never attended AA meetings or spoken to a therapist about their struggles with drinking, despite being put on medication in the past, which they eventually stopped taking cold turkey (1h8m30s).
• They feel like they can't do anything good anymore, which started after being in an abusive relationship, getting pregnant, and then losing the baby (1h9m20s).
• The individual used to not want to drink, even when they turned 21, but started drinking as a way to cope with their emotions and now feels like they have a lot of baggage (1h10m1s).
• They are trying to get back on their feet, find a new job, and have one friend who tries to help them, but they can be stubborn and don't always listen (1h10m27s).
• The idea of seeking help from a therapist is not something they have considered, partly due to being told by others that therapy doesn't work and that they don't need to pay someone to talk about their problems (1h11m16s).
• They have been taught to not talk about their emotions and have learned to hold things in until they explode, which they acknowledge is not a healthy way to cope (1h11m33s).
• The individual is open to checking in and receiving support, with the possibility of a follow-up conversation in the future (1h12m10s).

The Importance of Listening and Seeking Help

• A person found it helpful to talk about their problems and felt better after sharing their feelings (1h12m17s).
• Sometimes people just need someone to listen to them without judgment or trying to offer solutions, and not make them feel crazy for their emotions (1h13m3s).
• There are different ways to get help, such as therapy, especially for those who have insurance (1h13m21s).
• A plan was made to check in with the person in a week to see how they're doing (1h13m36s).

Family Issues and Thanksgiving

• The person is not on good terms with their brother, which might make the upcoming Thanksgiving gathering awkward (1h13m56s).
• Many people suggest that the person should apologize to their brother, but they're working on it and struggle with swallowing their pride (1h14m7s).
• It's hard to deal with family issues, but it's essential to consider the feelings of others and not let personal problems ruin their day (1h14m35s).
• The person wants to be able to approach their family member and express their love, rather than holding grudges (1h15m13s).
• It's crucial to find people who support and understand you, even if it means going out of your way to find them (1h15m53s).

Emily's Thanksgiving and Internal Conflicts

• A conversation is being wrapped up with someone named Emily, with wishes of a Happy Thanksgiving and to take care of herself (1h16m25s).
• There's an internal conflict about wanting to be around family during the holidays, but also wanting things to go a certain way, even if others have wronged them or have bad energy (1h17m0s).
• A person can't figure out their part in a situation for two hours and acknowledges they're not a saint, but rather someone with flaws (1h17m20s).

Brother's Gratitude and Hotline

• A brother, referred to as "big Z," is called to share a couple of things he's thankful for (1h17m45s).
• The brother mentions he's been doing well and appreciates the check-in after a tough day, and also talks about a girl who called a hotline and was having a tough time (1h17m58s).
• The hotline is mentioned as something that's been done more often, but it's hard to feel comfortable doing it when not feeling well or stressed (1h18m24s).
• The brother shares that he's thankful for his family, friends, and the friendships he's developed (1h19m46s).

Hypothetical Island Scenario and Human Desires

• A hypothetical scenario is presented where a person is stranded on a deserted island with no arms and only one leg, and they cannot masturbate, leading to a discussion about human behavior and desires in extreme situations (1h20m8s).
• The scenario involves a heterosexual male who is unable to pleasure themselves due to their physical limitations, and the question is raised about whether they would eventually have sex with another man who arrives on the island (1h21m25s).
• It is suggested that the person would likely form a connection with the other man, go on dates, and eventually engage in a romantic relationship, despite their initial heterosexuality (1h23m10s).
• The conversation touches on the idea that being stranded on an island for an extended period could lead to a reevaluation of one's desires and relationships (1h23m21s).
• The scenario is used to illustrate the complexities of human behavior and relationships, and to challenge traditional notions of identity and desire (1h23m36s).
• The conversation concludes with a message of gratitude and appreciation for the complexities of human relationships and the importance of connection and understanding (1h23m58s).

Joe Rogan Experience and Election Aftermath

• A recent appearance on Joe Rogan's show was challenging, and the experience was overwhelming, especially after the election, with people making assumptions about voting choices and affiliations (1h24m14s).
• The idea that podcasts can sway elections is not believed, and people make their own decisions, but the aftermath led to emails about fascism and being labeled as right-wing (1h24m24s).
• Voting for a friend, Bobby Kennedy, was a personal choice, and it's not unusual to support someone you trust and know, regardless of the position they're running for (1h24m42s).
• The experience has been freaky, and it's been a tough couple of weeks, feeling overwhelmed, but taking a breath and being happy to be alive is the current state of mind (1h25m45s).
• There's no need to explain personal choices, and it's okay to not know what you're doing, and being grateful for life and the people around you is what matters (1h26m5s).

Cruise Invitation, Self-Care, and Holiday Message

• The hotline is available for listeners to reach out, and the holidays are coming up, which can be a challenging time (1h26m38s).
• A brother is trying to convince someone to go on a cruise, and the idea of taking a bath alone can be a crazy experience, especially when you're young (1h27m17s).
• The importance of being good to oneself and others is emphasized, and the end of the year is something to look forward to, with a week-long break planned for the show (1h28m16s).
• A Happy Thanksgiving message is extended to the team, including producers and people who have been a part of the show over the years, and gratitude is expressed for their presence in life (1h28m32s).
• A message of support is given, with a reminder to take care of oneself, addressed to "Baby G" (1h29m3s).

Seeking a Romantic Partner

• A request is made for someone to reveal themselves, with the goal of finding a romantic partner, referred to as "my baby," for the night (1h29m22s).
• The speaker expresses feelings of loneliness, stating that finding a partner is all they need (1h29m30s).