How society has stopped us having sex | Jessica Lorimer | TEDxKingstonUponThames

10 Mar 2024 (8 months ago)

Sex in Media and Society

Sex is commonly used as a marketing strategy in various industries, including cigarettes, films, and television shows.
Despite the prevalence of sexual content in media, couples are having less sex and fewer are satisfied with their sex lives.
Societal norms and stereotypes about sex, reinforced through media and sex education, contribute to the decline in sexual satisfaction.

Sex education often focuses on biology and reproduction, neglecting communication and emotional aspects of sex.
Gender stereotypes portray sex differently for men and women, perpetuating harmful ideas about sexual behavior.
Pornography provides an unrealistic portrayal of sex and reinforces the idea that communication and connection are not necessary for sexual pleasure.
The lack of open communication about sex leads individuals to rely on media and pornography for guidance, which can result in unrealistic expectations and dissatisfaction in real-life relationships.

Sex is important for overall well-being, including physical and mental health, as well as job satisfaction and productivity.
Despite its importance, talking about sex with one's partner can be awkward and uncomfortable.
Practicalities are key when discussing sex, as they help set a scope and prevent overcomplicating or being overwhelmed.
Using blame language or accusatory statements can be detrimental to the conversation, while open questions, active listening, and "we" focus language can lead to more positive outcomes.
Regularly reviewing and agreeing upon outcomes is essential for making progress and improving one's sex life.
The ability to communicate effectively about sex can be applied to other areas of life, leading to better communication skills overall.

It is important to teach the next generation how to communicate effectively about sex, emphasizing its importance in relationships and promoting healthy attitudes and behaviors.