Relationship Psychologist’s 4 Golden Rules to Improve Sex Life in One Week
29 Dec 2023 (11 months ago)
Intro
- Dr. John Delone shares his four golden rules for a good sex life.
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Be Honest
- Being honest about desires, past experiences, and discomfort in a relationship is crucial.
- Open communication about intimacy and sex is important to avoid damaging secrets.
Be Curious, Not Judgmental
- Responding with curiosity instead of judgment when a partner shares vulnerabilities is essential for a healthy sexual relationship.
Remove Outside Influences
- Removing pornography and external influences allows a couple to focus on each other and explore their desires together.
Context to Intimacy & Sexuality
- Intimacy is influenced by the context around it, including conversations, daily gestures of love, and shared responsibilities.
- Sexual interaction is not confined to the moment, but is influenced by the interactions and conversations leading up to it.
Intimacy Initiation Advice
- Presence and warmth are important in initiating intimacy
- Clear communication is crucial for understanding each other's needs and desires
- Using envelopes with ideas for intimate activities can help facilitate conversation and understanding
- Scheduling intimacy on the calendar can help prioritize and prepare for it
- Initiating intimacy should be done gently and without pressure
- Prioritizing intimacy is essential to prevent the relationship from becoming solely a business relationship
- Recognizing when to rest and when to push through in intimacy is important
Commitment to Healing
- Commitment to healing from old traumas is part of the commitment to a relationship
- It is important to address old traumas and seek help from trauma counselors or support groups
- Healing from past traumas is essential for building a healthy, intimate relationship
- Taking steps to heal from past traumas is crucial for personal growth and for the well-being of the relationship and future generations