Votre chemin vers la surmontation des barrières mentales | Tarik El Mlih | TEDxESITH

Personal Story and Motivation

• A coach and mindset trainer shares his personal story, which began with his father passing away at the age of 56 due to cancer when the speaker was just 13 years old (2m46s).
• The speaker's father had a terminal cancer diagnosis with no available treatment options, and he would often say that he would die due to God's will, leaving the speaker with a lasting impression (3m6s).
• Five years later, the speaker started learning about being responsible and taking care of his family, which led him to re-evaluate his father's death and decide to do something exceptional to honor his memory (3m27s).
• The speaker, who was an experienced marathon runner, decided to run 30 marathons in 30 different Moroccan cities in 30 days to raise awareness about cancer and give hope to ordinary people that they can achieve extraordinary things (4m27s).

Potential and Focus

• The speaker completed this challenge in 2015 and believes that everyone has potential, quoting Nietzsche's phrase "become what you are" (4m44s).
• According to Timothy Galway, the potential or result is equal to the potential minus interference times motivation, and the speaker emphasizes the importance of focusing on one goal until success (5m8s).
• The speaker notes that people often face difficulties and have limiting beliefs, but with focus and motivation, they can overcome these obstacles and achieve their goals (4m3s).
• In today's digital age, people are surrounded by distractions like TikTok and Instagram, making it essential to stay focused and avoid interference (5m41s).
• Many distractions, such as WhatsApp and Snapchat, divert people from their true potential and hinder concentration, making it difficult to achieve one's potential, especially considering that the average human lifespan is approximately 800 months, calculated by multiplying one's age by 12. (5m48s)
• Taking the example of a 48-year-old person, multiplying the age by 12 gives 576 months, and subtracting that from 800 leaves 224 months, which is equivalent to 18.67 years, or the remaining time one has to live a healthy and active life. (6m12s)
• Life is limited, and one's potential is the time between their birth and death dates, making it essential to decide what to achieve within this timeframe and make the most of it. (6m47s)
• To realize one's potential, it is crucial to be focused and make conscious choices, as distractions can hinder progress, and it is up to each individual to take responsibility for their life and make the most of their time on earth. (7m57s)

Life's Purpose and Fulfillment

• Having a clear project or desire in life can bring joy and pleasure, and it is essential to find a balance between comfort and discomfort, as discipline and realization of one's potential can be challenging for the psyche. (9m11s)
• People should not let others deter them from achieving their goals and should take ownership of their lives, making conscious choices to realize their potential and live a fulfilling life. (7m46s)
• Depression, in the context of everyday life, is the absence of pleasure and desire to experience pleasure, and finding a project or desire can help bring joy and fulfillment to one's life. (8m49s)
• To be fulfilled in life, one must find pleasure and happiness in the present moment, focusing on the here and now, which is key to success in any project, including entrepreneurship (9m42s).

Entrepreneurship and Sales

• Entrepreneurship is a multifaceted field that involves having a project, mastering finance, and sales, with the Americans emphasizing the importance of sales in solving problems and generating money (9m56s).
• When accompanying business leaders and startups, it is often observed that people have projects and dreams but lack a solid business plan, business model, and in-depth business analysis, which hinders their ability to sell and succeed (10m28s).
• To sell and succeed, one must have energy, which can be developed through discipline, exercise, and taking care of one's sleep and body, as this energy is necessary to convince and communicate with clients (10m46s).
• In life, people constantly sell and exchange ideas, and to be a good entrepreneur, one must have a project, analyze it, and use their senses, including vision, touch, taste, intuition, and listening (11m18s).
• Having a vision is essential, but it must be balanced with being realistic and having a feasible project, and one must also be able to listen to clients, advisors, and mentors (11m31s).
• The five senses are crucial in realizing one's true potential, and having one's feet on the ground means starting slowly but surely and being in contact with reality (12m12s).

The Importance of Senses and Alignment

• Just like the five fingers, one must be aligned and straight in their proposals, character, and pitch, and have dignity and a clear vision, with the index finger representing direction, the middle finger representing communication, and the ring finger representing alliance (12m38s).
• Building a life requires networking, alliances, and communication with others, including friends, professors, and contacts, but it's essential to remember that intuition should only account for 20% of decision-making (13m20s).
• A successful life is built on interests, strength, and force, rather than just relationships or seeking validation from others (13m54s).
• People who achieve success often have a combination of strength and relationships, and having a true potential is crucial for achieving one's goals (14m19s).

Realizing True Potential and Expertise

• One's potential is their passage on earth, and it's essential to make the most of it by investing in oneself, focusing on personal growth, and being present (14m31s).
• To achieve expertise in a domain, it's necessary to put in 10,000 hours of conscious practice, which is equivalent to working 8 hours a day for 3.5 years in a single domain (15m1s).
• The problem with many people is that they jump from one domain to another, never achieving true results, and only gaining information rather than knowledge (15m18s).
• The difference between information and knowledge is that information is just reading a book, while knowledge is absorbing and applying that information (15m43s).
• The ultimate goal is to transmit one's potential, knowledge, and experience to others, as we are just relays in the grand scheme of life (15m59s).

Communication, Teamwork, and Human Connection

• According to Yuval Noah Harari, author of Sapiens, humanity has survived due to two key factors: our ability to codify communication and our capacity to work together as a team (16m29s).
• These two factors, communication and teamwork, enable us to overcome difficulties and make a difference in the world (17m12s).
• Humans are the only species with a sense of self, and this self-awareness allows us to care for and help others, even when they are old or sick, unlike other species that may abandon their weak members, even the alpha wolf (17m20s).
• To overcome mental barriers, one must rely on two key things: communication and networking, as having relationships and connections is essential for advancing in life (17m44s).
• It's crucial not to try to please others or seek external validation, as one of the primary drivers of human behavior is the desire to be, not to appear or feel good (17m57s).
• Success comes from making the right gesture at the right moment and doing it well, which requires being true to oneself, as everything starts with being and then leads to having and eventually giving (18m7s).
• The foundation of human existence is being, not having, and people should focus on developing themselves rather than constantly acquiring material possessions (18m29s).

Growth Mindset and Continuous Improvement

• Human needs are simple: eating, drinking, resting, learning, and growing, as emphasized by Carole Dweck, a Stanford psychiatrist who introduced the concept of the growth mindset (18m46s).
• The growth mindset is about embracing learning, progression, and continuous improvement, aiming for 1% progress each day in different areas, which can lead to significant changes over time (19m2s).
• In contrast, the fixed mindset focuses on perfection and can lead to unhappiness and dissatisfaction, as people with this mindset are only happy when they achieve their desired results (19m16s).
• Happiness and fulfillment come from the journey, not just the destination, and sharing experiences and knowledge with others is an essential part of this journey (19m32s).
• The speaker's goal is to share their passion and knowledge with others, including their son Abdah, who shares their passion for marathons, and to inspire others to find their own path (19m50s).